Men who enjoy the casual encounters usually avoid the talk where women demands commitment from them. This is what we call ‘I want a relationship’ talk and it is initiated by women who have fallen madly in love with men who gave the time and effort to make them fall in love.
This complicates things for the modern day Lothario. For him, commitment is not an option and is only a hindrance to his way towards seduction bliss. For this reason, the most experience seducer developed ways to avoid such talks. Today you will learn about the 3 ways to avoid the “I want a relationship” conversation from women.
Women usually start the “I want a relationship” talk with the question “What are we?” It is a vague question but easily translates to “Are we a couple?” or “Am I your girlfriend now?” for the experienced player. So once you hear this type of question start diverting the subject. But do not make it obvious. Answer the question with something like this – We are happy together. Then follow it up with “Just look at how you smile when you are here” or “Just look at how you smile when we do this together”. Appeal to how she feels at the very moment when she is with you. This will make you rethink her demands and even think that the two of you are already in a relationship.
This approach has a level of difficulty with it and it is recommended to learn it from several attempts. The reaction of the girl will tell you if you are going the right way or not. If she senses that you are trying to change the topic then you are in trouble and need to reconsider your approach.
Agree and Amplify
Most women will expect a guy to bail himself out of a commitment conversation. But this is never a good way to avoid it. It can result in a disaster with the girl ending her connection with you. You would not want this when you are into her. So what should you do?
A good way to avoid the conversation is to agree and amplify. This may seem odd since agreeing to her would mean getting into the conversation. Not so. You simply agree and amplify on the demands that you two should be in a relationship. The idea is to blow up her demands in a subtle way and be able to convey how ridiculous it is.
This will make her set the brakes on her planned conversation since it will make her think that she is moving too fast. This is the best way to make a woman reconsider her demands that you commit to her or become her boyfriend.
Use this approach sparingly as it can become ineffective the longer you spend time with her. This means that you have to end your casual flings before this method becomes useless. That should not be a problem to a Modern Lothario like you.
Important discussions need to be done on the right place and at the right time. Remember this whenever your girl goes on serious mode and decides to talk you into becoming her boyfriend. You will need to play the sincerity card here and talk her into considering a much better time and place to discuss such a serious matter.
From here you can now come up with good excuses to reschedule the “I want a relationship” talk as much as you can. You must always fake sincerity here and be convincing. But what do you do then when you have rescheduled the conversation so many times? Your girl will start to notice. The answer is simple. You can go with Divert Attention or the Agree and Amplify method.
These are the 3 ways to avoid the “I want a relationship” talk from your fling. As you can see, you basically revolve around these 3 methods depending on your circumstances. That makes these methods so effective in avoiding the dreaded commitment talks.